Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith continue to inspire their fans.
In the newest episode of Jada’s Red Table Talk featuring Will Smith, the couple relived a dark time in their family history, starting the year Jada turned 40. “I think the turning point in our relationship for me happened when I turned 40,” Jada said. “That’s when I had a mid-life crisis.”
And in waltzed Will who thought up with a grand plan to surprise Jada with a documentary-like film all about Jada and her family. “It was going to be a splash! It was going to be the thing that lifted her out of this mid-life crisis,” he recalled, “So Jada had to sit there and listen —I understand thoroughly now, at the time I didn’t—but she’s listening to these never-before-heard tapes of one of the dearest people she’s ever known in her life in front of all these people. She’s holding it together.”
Well, this gave Jada the “courage to just say no.”
“I had to have the courage to unravel it and just realizing that this next 40, I’ve got to do it my way. This next half has to be directed by the picture for myself,” Jada explained, because she had tried to live up to an idea for him. “There was so much that wasn’t me that I was living. So much in-authenticity. I do think that there are a lot more people who are living lives that are not true to them because of their fear. So I understand, there’s no judgment, I did it.”
The ripple effect was that their daughter Willow developed identity issues, confessed how unhappy she was; she canceled her tour, to the disappointment of her father who insisted she must continued.
Will said: “She was like, ‘Okay, I’m done, daddy.’ I was like, ‘Sweetie, you can’t be done. You know, you made a commitment’. She was like, ‘But I’m finished.’ I was like, ‘No sweetie, but you can’t be finished, you made a commitment to Mr. Jay-Z.’ ‘No Daddy, you made a commitment to Mr. Jay Z.'”
And Will remembered telling her: “Yes, sweetie. It does matter a lot, it does but you can’t be done.”
With all the mess happening in their home, the couple never considered divorce. It was not an option. “I had never seen a divorce lawyer. Like that was never—it never crossed my mind,” said Jada.
And Will added: “I had been divorced before, I wasn’t getting divorced again. Divorce wasn’t an option. There was a time where I was scared that she might. I was devastated even worse than a divorce. We broke up within our marriage and got back together again and had to rebuild with new rules—something way completely different.”
Now, years later, the couple have redefined their relationship. “We don’t even call ourselves married anymore,” Jada shared. “It’s a life partnership in the sense that we’ve created a foundation together that we know is for this lifetime.”